Article written by Charly Boy...Enjoy!
As Charlyboy, I know lots of
people will swear that my life is complicated but sorry, not quite. The truth
is that as Charles Oputa, my life is very ordinary and a bit boring because I
choose "simple" happy life. Thank God I don't live as Charlyboy in my
house. I have nothing to prove to my family, except to love, protect and fend
for them. That alone is a full time job, free mejare.
Some people assume say, because
ebe like say small pepper rest for my hand, I just dey wan yarn ‘anyhowly’. Being financially secure certainly can
help open opportunities, relieve stress, and offer some peace of mind. But can
all the money in Naija make you happy if you are unable to feel happiness from
WITHIN? Make we check de matter. This piece is not for people who just exist,
but for those who have become INCAPABLE of counting their small BLESSINGS.
Sure, some people have advantages
in certain areas of their lives. There are those who have lots of money, some
are physically on point, some have extraordinary intelligence, etc, but I know
that some of us also have advantages over other people in different areas of
our lives as well. I never measure my humble success by how much money I have,
instead I define it with how much happiness I can activate in me and in others,
even as jungle don mature, my inner peace is golden for me, and the positive
contributions one can make to his environment, profound.
From my great Father, Justice
ChukwudifuAkunneOputa, I learnt the art of contentment; I also learnt that the
universe gives us a playing field where we all have the opportunity to reach
our 100%. That means if 100 people decided "happiness" was their
goal, that goal is equally attainable for each and every one of them, only the
path and time it takes to get there will be different.
For the sake of this happiness,
peace of mind and the little contributions one makes to enhance their
environment, I have finally defined my no go territories. Things I will not
waste my precious time on, because I no send anybody.
1. Relationships and friendships
that don't bring any value to my life, weytin
I wan take am do. I am an
"ALL" giver so I need to be mindful and careful of TAKERS who don't
understand the dynamics of giving.This is why it is so important to set your
own value, as well as create and maintain healthy boundaries because regardless
of what the other person does, it's ultimately up to you to choose what is
acceptable in your life and what isn't.
2. I am a hunter for positive
clean spirits who see goodness in many places, you all know I have Virgins, not
in the physical sense of the word, that's why I always make it a point to
surround myself with positive and proactive people who will lift my spirit and
inspire me to live life to the fullest! Certainly no room for crappy people,
when all they carry is toxic energy, Tufiakwa!
3. I am learning to worry less,
it's not easy but I’m trying so hard, God help me. I know that worrying about
something that may or may not happen won't change anything - and you miss out
on the opportunity to make the present great (which in turn could possibly have
influenced tomorrow in a positive way!) I’m learning to let go of excessive
worrying, because really, what’s the point borrowing from the future. If we
worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, that means we have
worried in vain. Even if it does happen, we have to worry twice."
4. Thank God I never worry about
what people think about me, especially those that I know talk out of ignorance
or not well informed about my put outs. I see my world through eyes of my own
personal life experiences and interpretation, and so does everyone else. For
long now, I have understood that when someone has an opinion of you or your
life, it doesn’t make it a fact unless you agree that it is. You don't need
anyone's permission to set your worth, so why depend on the approval or
disapproval of others. In this area of my life, I’m a master, who born dem.
5. I never try to change people,
but with those I see that are hungry to be better, I give them impetus to be
the best of themselves. I appreciate the differences; they are what makes this
world interesting. So who the hell can change my attitude, thoughts, or actions
so they can feel more comfortable or secure? No one,dem never born dem. Even
my late father tried and failed.
6. I live in my own world, in
that worldna only me be Oba. I never
compare myself to others or set my standards based on someone else's
expectations, God forbid. This way the only human being in this world that I
have left to beat, is my achievements of yesterday. I no struggle nothing with
anybody.
7. I don't mind it when I’m
broke, when things are not moving according to plan. The hardship I have
encountered in this life, most of them has been self-inflicted, just because I’m
use to the hard way and hard life. I avoid setting limits to what I can achieve
in my life by remaining in my personal comfort zone, because when you break out
of your comfort zone is when you grow the most. I have let go the need to be
comfortable all the time."Life begins at the end of your comfort
zone" ~ Neale Donald Walsch
8. Just as I don't bloody worry
about what others think of me, I avoid judging others and their life choices.
The only life I get to live and is responsible for is my own, so I leave others
to live their own lives full out. Doing so frees me up to live MY life to the
fullest.
This write up is really not about
me, it's about some of the qualities that has helped me stay focused and
tenacious in my pursuit of happiness and peace, and I know when one attains
that kinda’ height, you take things a little easier
because at the end of the day, we just can't take anything with us when we
depart. So I am an advocate of creating our own mini Heaven on earth, not by
the material things we surround ourselves with, but the contentment, peace and
happiness we have learned to cultivate in our lives. Are you a learner?
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